Why do my staff not listen to what I’m telling them?
THE PROBLEM
Entrepreneurs and managers frequently have difficulty communicating with their employees. This often manifests itself in questions like “Why do my staff not listen to what I’m telling them?” “Why was this done wrongly… again?” “Why can’t my people take the initiative and just get the job done?” “Why can’t my people think more like businesspeople?”
At the heart of problems like these is a breakdown in communication and it can be from a variety of causes:
- Unrealistic expectations and assumptions;
- One way communication from all parties;
- Incomplete communications cycle;
- Incompatible language patterns;
- Emotional subtext.
In this blog entry we will examine the first two causes and then we can look at some communications strategies that will ensure that you, as a manager will get the best results from your people.
Unrealistic expectations and assumptions
These can come from both sides of a communication and can be unrealistic in either direction. Let me give you some examples.
Manager with a too high expectation
Joe is a manager in a manufacturing plant and he has worked there for fifteen years. He wants his newly hired foreman, Alvin, to make some changes to the set up of the most complex machine in the plant. Joe sits down with Alvin and quickly goes through what he needs done, with the expectation that Alvin will understand everything and that if he doesn’t, he will question Joe about the task.
Joe’s expectation is unrealistic because (i) Alvin is new there and may be unfamiliar with this type of machine and (ii) if Alvin has questions, he may be inhibited from asking them because he is new and does not want to create the impression that does not understand, which is a fairly normal human reaction. Or Alvin may be familiar with a similar machine and he just assumes that the plant’s machine is the same.
Either way, the end result is likely to be that the set up is not done the way Joe intended.
Manager with too low expectation
Janice is a project manager in a software company, she came up through the ranks, starting as a programmer and then quickly being promoted to designer and then software architect. The project she is managing is critical to her company. She gives the people on the project very detailed step by step instructions on how she wants each task done.
This may seem like a good communication approach: everyone knows exactly want is required of them, right? However, Janice is forgetting the fragility of the human ego; she is, in fact, communicating to her team members that message that she does not trust them to think for themselves. This will create friction and resistance from her team members and may result in some negative outcomes. For example, Dave knows that the instructions she has given him are wrong because doing it her way will cause the software to operate slowly. But Dave feels undervalued by her and so he does it her way just so that he can prove her wrong later. Perhaps this is an immature reaction by Dave but it is not unusual.
Employee with too high expectations
Rita has worked in the warehouse of an auto parts distribution company for five years. Her new boss, Mike, is out to make his mark by reducing lead times. He wants some reorganization of the way in which orders are picked from the shelves. He sits down with Rita and gives her details of what he wants done. Rita understands his instructions but she has a strong feeling that what he wants done will cause some problems for the shipping department. She knows that Mike is a very smart guy and she expects that he knows what he is doing and that he has cleared the changes with the shipping department. Rita is the type of person who respects her boss’s authority and so she just doesn’t question Mike’s instructions.
Rita’s intuition was right and the changes, rather than reducing lead times, increase them. In the post mortem meeting Rita points out the flaw in Mike’s approach and he wonders why she didn’t say something before.
Employee with too low expectations
Let’s look at the previous example from another point of view. Instead of dealing with Rita, Mike is dealing with Beth. Beth is an experienced employee who has seen one manager after another make changes most of which have been ineffective. She has a low expectation of management. She has the same intuition as Rita so when Beth executes Mike’s instructions, she makes a couple of very sensible changes of her own that will eliminate the potential problem in the shipping department. Unfortunately, she doesn’t know (and Mike omitted to tell her) that he has also asked the shipping department to make changes to match the changes in the picking operation.
Beth’s changes to Mike’s instructions now cause a major problem when the goods arrive in shipping.
One way communication from all parties
This is the classic communication problem: “I talk and you listen.” Just sit in any meeting and you hear this communication approach endlessly. It can come from the manager and it can come from the employee. Either way it is a big problem. People are not really listening to what the other person says but are eagerly putting in their ten cents worth.
One way in which you can spot this happening is when Fred is talking about something and Bill eagerly interrupts with, “In my old company we—” but Fred continues talking and makes some additional important points. When he has finished, Bill says exactly the same words as before, “In my old company we—” This is a pretty strong indication that Bill has not been actively listening to what Fred was saying and has not heard Fred’s additional points; Bill was just biding his time to make the same point that he was going to make before Fred added the new information.
Communication can only happen when both parties are listening, understanding and reacting to each others’ words.
THE SOLUTION
The meaning of your communication is the response you get – John Grinder and Richard Bandler.
You, as the entrepreneur and/or manager have to take responsibility for communication in your organization. If you communicate something to your staff and it doesn’t get the desired result, you failed in the communication. You carry the can.
It is very easy to say, “But I explained it well, they just didn’t follow my instructions.” If that is the case, you still bear the responsibility; your boss, shareholders or investors will hold you responsible.
Here are some strategies for ensuring that the type of problems described above do not happen to you.
Respect
Communication must come from a place of mutual respect. You always need to be earning your employee’s respect. One way to do this is for you to be respectful of them; respectful of their knowledge and experience or of their hard work. Be respectful when assigning tasks: if they are experienced, get their input; if they are inexperienced be considerate.
Give context
Do not just assign tasks to people. Let them know the bigger picture; let them know what you are trying to achieve and why. Ask their input and listen very carefully; often they will have suggestions that are better than your own ideas. Agree each task with them by making sure that you both explain the details of the task to each other, each in your own words. Always ask if they can see any problems with the task and encourage them to come and see you if they encounter problems as they go along.
Be sensitive to the individual
If, like Rita in the example above they are deferential to people in authority, encourage them to question your ideas. If they are like Beth, who does not have a great respect for authority, make sure that you are both in agreement with the task and make sure that she knows that you are prepared to change the task if she has good reasons why it won’t work.
Listen like a hawk
Listen very carefully to everything your employees say and listen with an open mind. Listen with your ears and your eyes. Watch for clues in their expression, body language or tone of voice that they do not understand or do not agree. If you spot something or if your intuition is bothering you, then clarify with the employee. “You look like you don’t agree, Jim.” “I get the feeling that you think it won’t work, Mary.” Probe until you get clarity.
In the next post we will discuss the other three areas of communication breakdown: incomplete communications cycle, incompatible language patterns and emotional subtext.
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